Transference is the process of using previous experiences, particularly in our personal relationships, to help us prepare for and succeed in current activities. If we transfer positively, we are likely to make our current experience better than our former one. If our transference is poor, we are likely to bring the bad things that happened to us back to the forefront. For example, if you had a previous bad experience with a boy/girl-friend, you might make your current S.O. miserable by expecting them to make up for what the other person had done to you, even if they had no knowledge of it. This is another scene we’ve seen in the movies, “Oh, Chris, I don’t want to fall in love. I just don’t think I can stand to be hurt again!” (even though Chris has done nothing hurtful)
